Hello again all! I have met many men who say that size does not matter, that it is the motion of the ocean and all kinds of rubbish stories. I have even heard their ladies agree with them on the subject and I am certain that I cannot be the only woman on the planet who doesn’t agree. I really believe that size does matter. After all you can’t fit a square peg into a round hole. In the diaries of Anais Nin, she tells of how she told Henry Miller that he is the perfect lover for her because her husband has such a large penis that she can’t get comfortable with it but Henry really manages to get inside her. Men with a weak ego could perceive this as being an insult, but actually it is not.

We are all of different shapes and sizes and if your partner has a huge cock and you have a tiny vagina, you may actually not be able to make it work and have to start seeking other methods of mutual satisfaction, or look for another partner, which doesn’t really do much for monogamy, does it? Same applies to you, your vagina might be large and your male partner has a little cock and no matter how much he loves you, having sex with you could make him feel like he is slapping a wiener into a fish pond. All of us are different and need to acknowledge that because of this we need not give up when our physical needs are not fulfilled, as there is more than one way of skinning a cat. But, you really have to be proactive and brave and explore deeper into each other’s physical needs to find out what might work for you both.

If your partner has a small cock and is struggling to comply with your sexual needs, there are potions that you could use to tighten your vagina and there are some very exciting cock extensions that can be used and have a very satisfying effect for both of you. http://www.sextoysex.com/sex/start/exsearch.html?

I personally don’t like the idea of vaginal tightening operations. I have a friend who got one and she had to go back into surgery again to get the butcher work loosened. Crazy stuff!

The vagina is very elastic and expands up to 4 inches in diameter during childbirth so can truthfully speaking accommodate most penises, from relatively small to really large, although discomfort can sometimes be experienced, usually with practice this does get better. Remember to use plenty of lubricant; there are so many wonderful varieties available. http://www.ladybyday.com/shoplotions.php

If really desperate measures are required there is a small operation that can be carried out on the inside of the vagina to assist in alleviating some of the discomfort.

The point is this: you have to take control of your sexual reality, find what works for you and practice, practice, practice! The more you practice the better you get. Just for you ladies, a parting note from the admirable Anais Nin, who was brave enough to tell the great Henry Miller he had a small cock.

“Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one’s courage”.

Anais Nin, The Diary of Anais Nin, volume 3, 1939-1944

Enjoy your week.

Until next time.

Toni