There is no doubt about it: sex and massage work really great together. They can also be mutually exclusive, but I think there is nothing like a sexy massage in the candle light with some great aromatherapy oils or hot motion lotion; all available I might add from Lady by Day, to set the mood for a really great bout of heart pumping sex. Now a back-rub is nice: it can relax you and relieve you of tension, but it is not really sensual.
The skin is the largest organ of the body and sensual massage is long, slow and erotic. It can stimulate libido to prolong the sex act and heighten sensitivity. You have to be sure that your partner understands the type of massage you are going to give them, because if they are expecting a traditional type of back massage and you start rubbing their naughty bits they might just be taken by surprise. You could start with a sexy, warm, candlelit bath together and progress to a massage either on the floor or bed. This should take place in a warm room particularly if you live in a cold climate, as both partners must be naked. Ensure you put towels down as most massage oils can stain good bedding. Lighting should be soft or candlelight, and make sure that you have no hangnails.
A feather is a very good item to have as you can, prior to the massage, rub the feather up and down your partners’ body. This has a calming sensual effect and can get your partner ready for the massage. A piece of (faux) fur has the same effect and also stimulates the lymph glands. Remember that a therapeutic massage does not entail any touching of the genital areas whereas an erotic massage absolutely does. This doesn’t mean you head straight for the penis or vulva though; most women don’t like their genitals to be touched unless they are already aroused. You should begin by oiling your hands and gently massaging your partner’s back, stroking the butt and the back of the legs, and going in between the thighs at the back, close to the genitals, you can brush your breasts lightly up their back, buttocks and legs. You then ask your partner to turn over and the same again on the front of the body and chest area, after this you can commence to massage the genitals, gently and slowly, returning attention back to the body and the genitals alternately or stroking the body with one hand and the genitals with the other.
Receiving affection and being sexual are two of the fundamentals in all relationships and erotic massage can reawaken those feeling that we have for each other and sometime lose with time. It can bring you to a high state of arousal and create lasting intimacy in a relationship. So, ladies, if you feel like your relationship has gone a bit crusty and you need something new to reawaken those feeling you had for each other in the past, sensual massage is a really good place to start.
Have a great week, ladies
Toni
